Live your life, so that every day, you have a testimony to tell

Have a testimony

 

One of my good friends often says jokingly, “Daph, I’m about to throw in the towel.” He’s trying to say that he might as well give up when the stress of life gets to be a little too much. And I often tell him, “Nope. Pick it back up!” He laughs at me, but I know that he appreciates me saying it every time I do! We have to keep moving forward steadily towards all of the potential that life has to offer!
Many of us have so much potential and power inside of us, and it simply takes for us to believe in that daily to push forward towards our goals, to embrace hope and potential within each day, and to pursue opportunities, friendships, and relationships that would allow us to be inspired, empowered, and fulfilled.

So go for it! Don’t you try to throw in the towel. Instead, live your life so that every day, you have a testimony to tell! Have a success mentality even in the midst of the storm. Live today like it’s part of your story of overcoming and winning even amidst the challenges that come your way! Live today like it’s part of the legacy that you might pass on to your mentees, the people around you, or your future family! You deserve to embrace all that life has to offer today and every day!

I believe in you!

VIDEO: Tips to determine if your next job or entrepreneurial opportunity is right for you – Why I turned down a million-dollar opportunity

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Here is the recording from the Facebook Live that I did a few weeks ago that has almost 1,000 views thus far on Facebook: “Why I Turned Down a Million Dollar Opportunity: A Few Tips to Determine Whether the Next Job or Entrepreneurial Opportunity is Right For You.” 

For those of you who prefer to read a bit of the content-rich detail of what I spoke about, here’s the basic outline of what I covered in this video:

I started out by speaking about the journey of a gentleman who happens to be a senior in age who I spoke to after a goal-setting workshop that I facilitated for him and a few other individuals. After the workshop, he shared with me the significance of him making the right decisions about what to prioritize as his life focus. He felt as if this was extremely critical with these possibly being the last years of his life. His story made me think about why we don’t all have the perspective of living our best lives now, especially since, whether we would like to admit it or not, none of us are guaranteed many years of life from this point forward (though I hope we all have an abundance of years moving forward!).

I then went on to give a few major tips on how to determine if your next job or entrepreneurial opportunity is right for you. Here are a few things I covered that we should all think about when it comes to our next opportunities:

1) What do you want from this season in your life?
More time with family?
More balance?
More of a focus on building wealth?/ Paying off debt?
More time?
Action: Write it down – What do you want and why in every area of your life? Does your dream or opportunity currently fit into these desires? 

2) What might others feel like they need from you in this season?
What might your spouse or family desire from you?
What is your child or husband’s love language, and are you able to fulfill that love language while pursuing a specific opportunity?
Do you have a sick parent or family member that you need to take care of while pursuing your next opportunity?
Is there debt that needs to be paid off in your family that you need to address as soon as possible?
Action: Talk to your loved ones before making huge decisions. Have your dream team on board to support you through your dream.

3) Is what you want entrepreneurship or a job?
Are you okay with uncertainty or do you need guaranteed profit?
Are you okay with experiencing failure on occasion that might impact your income or do you need definite additional income?
Action: If you desire to take risks with your next job or entrepreneurial opportunity, take risks at the best possible time. Maybe that means that you take the risk now while you have a full-time job, are single, or have guaranteed retirement. Maybe that time is in the future. If the time is now to take a risk, what will you do to start working towards making that dream happen?

4) Think about if an opportunity will truly make you happy doing the task that you’ll be doing, and if that happiness in doing your work truly matters to you (maybe profitability matters more to you when you explore your heart deeply).
Does happiness matter more than the profit you’ll be making in your next opportunity?
Did you find that you have a degree but are not choosing to do the thing that will bring you wealth? Maybe it’s because happiness in what you’re doing might matter more to you than profit.
If you’re currently in school, do you find that you’re not pursuing a major or degree of study that might not bring you wealth?
Answer the question: Might your happiness be more important than your wealth?
Action: Write down the experiences you’ve had that have truly made you happy. 

5) Think about if you’re honestly satisfied with the status quo (you just might be).
Is outside pressure or popularity forcing you to feel like you need to be wealthy?
Action: Pray, meditate, and determine what you want and why? What do you like about how things are going now? Do you honestly want to change?

After evaluating the above, you should have a number of strategies and tools to feel more confident that your next entrepreneurial or job opportunity is right for you!

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Can you really handle success? Three tips to manage the success that’s coming your way.

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First of all, I’m going to tell you the answer is YES. You definitely can handle success. So many people are afraid to do so much, because they’re afraid of what might be on the other side, even if it’s success. Some of us are afraid to graduate from high school or from college. We’re afraid to date the right man or woman.  We’re afraid to get married. We’re afraid to start a job in a higher role than we’ve been in. We’re afraid to make too much money. We’re afraid to move to where we know would be great for us.  We’re afraid to save money. We’re afraid to buy a home. And the list goes on and on. But, can I tell you something. It’s okay to be afraid, but it’s important that you know that you can handle the success that’s on the other side of taking action towards walking in your purpose.

These past few weeks, I have had the blessing of speaking with business coaching clients who are almost overwhelmed with how many increased leads, sales, and profits they are making. We’re working on how they can manage that better. I’ve had the joy of supporting leadership coaching clients who now have friendships galore blossoming from their ability to more walk in their confidence and coaching clients who are also balancing blossoming romantic relationships along with their other endeavors as a result of their taking a chance on love. I actually closed the most sales I have ever closed in the history of my business last month. Great things are happening all around, but I definitely realized something in helping others manage their success and having to manage my own success.

I realized that being able to handle success means being as prepared as possible for it before it comes. 

Though this means different things to different people based on what your idea of success is, there are a few things that are pretty consistent across the board that you can do to do your part to be ready for the awesomeness that might be getting ready to come your way. 

 

1) Time Management

Are you managing your personal time or business time in a way that makes room for when success comes your way? Whether success to you means a relationship, or exercising regularly, or having increased prospects in your business, does your current schedule allow for space for future endeavors that are meaningful to you to be prioritized? If not, adjust your schedule, utilize time management tools, release what’s not an effective use of your time, and integrate more of what helps you move towards being successful.

 

2) Personal and Professional Development

When you get the increase in pay or the new house or the new relationship or the increased clientele, will you know what to do? Will you know how to manage your success? When I was in high school, I was speaking to bankers about understanding investing. When I was in college, I requested information about franchises I might start (though I may have had $5 in my savings account). In college, I printed out a large number of pages about credit management before I had a credit card. I was trying to get prepared for what my future vision might hold. If you’re trying to start a family or have an amazing family, you should be taking steps to grow as a parent, wife, or husband, for example. Lay the foundation right now for what you know can be your reality. Why wait?

 

3) Perspective

Are you a pessimist? In my opinion, that’s not going to help very much in your personal, professional, or entrepreneurial life. And there’s a difference between being a realist or a pessimist. To prepare for success, once you’re in it, you have to learn how to keep success going. That means you have to have vision, hope, and I would say, even faith, to keep pushing you forward. If you got to medical school and decided once you got there that you weren’t medical school material, can you imagine how that might negatively impact your ability to study through the night? If you got married and, all of a sudden, decided that this marriage was just not going to work no matter what you did, can you imagine how that might impact your marriage journey. So again, vision, hope, and faith, I believe, might be essential on the way to success and once you reach the success you’ve been hoping for. 

So do yourself a big favor. Since we already agree you’re going to be able to handle any success that comes your way, do your part to continue to prepare to receive it. You got this!

And remember, I believe in you!

If this post was helpful in any way, as always, definitely comment below or email me at daphne@daphnevalcin.com to let me know, and feel free to forward to family or friends who might benefit.

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Stop and Smell the Roses – Motivation for the Month!

 

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When was the last time you stopped and simply appreciated where you are amidst the hustle and bustle of life?

In my observations of those individuals who have experienced vast success personally, professionally, or entrepreneurially, one thing many of them have in common is that they have a daily practice of expressing gratitude for what they have, even at their lowest points.

If you’re lacking motivation for small or large tasks or goals, one amazing, powerful practice that can take your action to the next level is expressing gratitude.

Last year, I found out that there are actually “Gratitude Trainings” that exist that cost hundreds of dollars. These trainings teach people how to feel, show, and express gratitude in a more powerful way. I personally know individuals who have attended and have had their lives completely changed, experiencing greater abundance in every way after that training. Gratitude is that priceless. 

In the next few weeks, I urge you to try a few ways to express gratitude daily. Here are a few ways you can try to do so: 

  • Create and state five affirmations that state, in present tense, what you’re grateful for now and in the future
  • Create a blessing jar where you add in what you’re grateful for at the end of each day through writing a statement of gratitude on a small sheet of paper daily
  • Meditate or pray on 10 things that you’re grateful for soon after you awake daily

 

Determine what works for you, experience the benefits of taking your gratitude to the next level, and make whatever practice you choose to express gratitude consistent!

I believe in you!

As always, please send me a note if this resonated with you, and feel free to share this post with family and friends!

Also, feel free to share with me via email at daphne@daphnevalcin.com how this post has helped you think of what you are already grateful for in your life or business! I’m excited to hear about it!
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Push past fear! – Motivation for the Month!

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Push past fear!

Have you been there? You’re on the brink of making a decision, having a conversation, taking action towards a goal, or doing something amazing, and BAM, fear comes in and puts a major stop on progress.

It’s time for you to replace fear with faith, courage, and action. Remember, action conquers fear. You might have some relationships that need mending. Mend them. You may have a conversation that needs to happen with an employer or fellow employee. Have it. You may have the desire to travel. Go for it. It may be that you have a dream or vision that has been on your heart. Make it happen.

In order to move forward when fear is on your heart or mind, thinking about what’s on the other side of your next action step can help to push you forward.

This month, spend some time really thinking through the details of what life would look like if you pushed past fear, think of how you can strategically move forward in a way that has the best possible outcomes, get counsel if needed on how to move forward, and then take action!

I believe in you!

 

Your mission-driven leadership and business empowerment specialist,

Daphne L. Valcin

 

*As always, please send me a note if this resonated with you, and feel free to share this post with family and friends!

*Also, feel free to share with me via email at daphne@daphnevalcin.com or comment below about how this message has impacted how you are pushing past fear in your life or business! I’m excited to hear about it!

 

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Cash cushion or not? When to leave your full-time job to pursue your passion.

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Many of us have been there–daydreaming about the vision we have for our lives and the entrepreneurial ideas we have to get there, but unclear about the timeline we should use to boldly pursue our dreams. In fact, I often get asked the question by clients and prospective clients: “When should I leave my full-time job to pursue my passion?” 

In the world of entrepreneurship, while there is no cookie-cutter answer, I can offer you some wisdom and my perspective on this extremely important question.

See below for some things to consider on your journey from full-time work to full-time entrepreneurship:

1. What is your detailed current budget, and how long would it take your entrepreneurial venture to support that budget?  Some entrepreneurs use loans from individuals or banks to start their business to have enough money for an income as well as business expenses. If you borrow, know when you’ll be able to pay that money back through doing conservative financial projections for your business, knowing that the revenue you project may not actually be the revenue that you bring in initially. I find that entrepreneurs often over-estimate their profitability before officially being in business. Many entrepreneurs I know, including myself, start their business from their own investments and expect their business to solely support them. If you do this, determine what your revenue might be 3 months, 1 year, and 2 years from starting your business to determine when you can transition from your full-time job. If 3 months down the road, your projected revenue for your business is not coming to fruition, re-do your projections to make sure they are more realistic. You may have to reduce your personal budget initially if you hope to leave your full-time job as soon as your entrepreneurial venture hits a point where all of your needs are met (and not your wants). Also think about any huge upcoming expenses you may have as you budget (such as a car or home purchase or an expanding family).

2. Determine whether you’re disciplined enough to work for yourself. Go ahead and try to maximize your time outside of your full-time job to work on another venture, and start now. Notice your work habits. Are you easily distracted? Do you procrastinate? Is it hard for you to get anything done?  If you have answered yes to any of the above statements, then leaving your full time job for your entrepreneurial venture may not be the best thing for you to do right now. You may end up leaving your job and lacking the productivity strategies that you need to make ends meet. Instead, get support in that area right now, so you’ll be able to maximize your profitability in your business when the time comes, and experience profitability in your business even as you hold a full-time job.

3. Are you fearless when it comes to the sales or fundraising skills needed to make your dream come true?  Many individuals have a fear of selling. In fact, I often run into awesome entrepreneurs who are great at what they do, but are afraid to make the cold calls or have the sales conversations needed to sell their products or services or to be able to fundraise for a nonprofit campaign. You can have a great product, but if you can’t sell it, you will have no revenue. Again, this doesn’t mean you can’t start your business. It just means that you have to enhance these skills before jumping 100 percent into entrepreneurship. This skill-set is something I had to work on in a major way before seeing my business grow and flourish. If you are truly committed to your business success, you too can experience immense growth in your sales or fundraising skill-set.  

4. Do you have a well-thought out business plan?  Do you know exactly what you want to do, who you want to serve, how you want to do it, and how it will be profitable? If you’re unsure, then get the support you need to get clear on the details of how your business will be successful, and take care in considering the components of successful business that I have underlined above. You should even be fully implementing the major components of your master plan and analyzing the results of your implementation before transitioning into full-time entrepreneurship to ensure your master plan is truly an effective one.

The above tips are solely a few, out of many, things to consider, as you determine when you should leave your full-time job to transition into pursuing your passion full-time. You should definitely put deep thought into making the transition, and seek counsel before you make the leap into complete dream territory. And when you’re ready, pursue your dreams fearlessly, though strategically, to make the transition one you can look back on and be proud of. 

As always, please comment below or send me a quick email at daphne@daphnevalcin.com to let me know if this was helpful, and feel free to share with family or friends who you feel this might be helpful for.

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Sincerely,

Daphne L. Valcin, your leadership and business empowerment specialist

Introducing the all new REAP Leadership and Personal Development Program!

I just finished up my Empowerment Now: Analyze, Release, and Move Forward web series where we featured a group of women who had surpassed obstacles in order to accomplish amazing things both personally and professionally! Participants in the series said they experienced both personal and professional transformation and had an opportunity to explore their lives, commitments and time more deeply than they have before!

At the end of the last call in the series, I launched my REAP (Resilience, Energy, Action, and Productivity) program. This program is both a leadership and personal development program beginning by early May 2015 and I wanted to tell you more about it!
THIS PROGRAM IS FOR YOU IF:

  • You feel like you need to work on your ability to bounce back from situations that have happened in the past or situations currently happening in your home, at work, in relationships, in friendships, or within your entrepreneurial plans (Resilience),
  • You can’t always find the emotional, physical or spiritual energy you need to move forward in a spirit of joy and excellence daily and want to know the secrets to living an energetic life (Energy),
  • You’d like to be able to have more initiative when it comes to your daily routine, being able to more readily avoid procrastination, adhering to your commitments, confronting challenges, and pursuing your dreams head on(Action),
  • You have been seeking the right routine that will allow you to maximize your personal time, family time, entrepreneurial time, relational time, etc. (Productivity), AND
  • You’d like to work on the critical aspects of releasing feelings about the past that are not serving you and move forward into strategizing in detail what the future might look like and the path to get there (Release and Progress).

THE 3-MONTH PROGRAM WILL CONSIST OF:

  • 2 monthly group webinars (1 – 1.5 hours each) where you’ll have the opportunity to work through these critical components of Release, Resilience, Energy, Action, Productivity, and Progress through conversation, group support, an interactive curriculum including proven and research-based exercises, worksheets, and journaling. ($100/month value)
  • 1 monthly 1:1 90-minute conversation via Skype, phone, or in-person with you and I (a certified life coach) where we delve deeper and/or strategize around areas of most concern to you, coming up with strategic plans of action. ($200/month value)
  • Personalized HW from 1:1 calls and group webinars to ensure you’re steadily moving forward with your personal dreams and goals while analyzing your current state of mind and empowering yourself along the way ($100 value)

HOW MUCH DOES IT COST?:

You can have greater peace of mind along with increased resilience, energy, action, and productivity through this program for $100 a month for 3 months if you sign up by midnight, Monday, 4/6!

After Monday, 4/6/2015, the price will go up to $125 per month.

Payments will be debited from your account on the 1st of each month.

HOW DO I SIGN UP?:

Send me an email at daphne@daphnevalcin.com to let me know you’re interested in the REAP program and we’ll schedule a 15-minute chat to determine if this program is a good fit for you and, if so, what you hope to accomplish while in the program!

If you haven’t done a free 30-minute consultation with me, I’d be glad to do that for you! I look forward to speaking with you!

How to do a self-led quarterly self-evaluation!

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Sometimes, life is moving so fast that we don’t get the opportunity to stop and really look at where we are and where we want to be.

I dare you to do just that by doing your own self-led self-evaluation this March, as we near the end of the first quarter of the year (and I know you can do it!). Below, I’ll give you some practical steps to lead you through one way of doing your own self-evaluation, and then, I’ll let you know about a few promotions (in highlighted sections below) that only members of this list will hear about until the end of this week when I share them with the world via social media! Meanwhile, you can feel free to share this email with friends and family if you’d like!

HOW TO COMPLETE YOUR OWN QUARTERLY SELF-EVALUATION

  1. Find a quiet place for you to do this activity alone or with a trusted group of friends. You can also play music that helps you to reflect while doing the activity.
  2. Get 3 – 5 sheets of notebook paper.
  3. At the top of each notebook sheet, write 1 of your top priorities in life and/or business (examples are 1) forming healthy friendships, 2) establishing a stronger spiritual relationship, 3) eating healthy, and 4) Increasing clientele).
  4. Write “Current” as a heading underneath your first priority.
  5. Underneath that heading, write 3 – 5 short statements that describe where you are in this priority area.
  6. Underneath those statements, rank yourself in this priority area on a scale of 1 to 10 with 10 being exactly where you want to be.
  7. Underneath that, write the heading, “3 months from now.”
  8. Underneath that heading, write 3 – 5 short statements that describe where you would like to be in this priority area 3 months from now.
  9. Underneath those statements, write the heading, “Action Plan.”
  10. Underneath that heading, write 3 – 5 very feasible things you can do to move towards where you want to be in that area.
  11. Repeat steps 3 – 10 on each notebook sheet for each priority (feel free to use a journal, Google Document, or whatever works for you)
  12. If you are with a group of friends, you can eachshare one goal at a time, give listeners an opportunity to ask questions at the end of each goal, and clap it up for the presenter after each goal.
  13. Schedule your self-led quarterly evaluations for the remainder of the year using Google Calendar or whatever planning mechanisms you use including reminders to help you prepare to reflect leading up to your next evaluation.

If you really focus on the areas of your life that mean the most to you and take steps like the ones above to reflect, analyze, then strategize on how to take your goals to the next level (and how to hold yourself accountable to these action steps), you WILL see much more progress than if you allow yourself to get used to operating at levels below what you know you are capable of! Try it for yourself, and tell me how it works for you!