A Few of the Myths and Realities of Entrepreneurship (From My Perspective!)

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Entrepreneurship has been such a blessing to me, even as others still believe it always turns out badly.

Some believe that being an entrepreneur is the wrong move to make because:

  • You’ll mess up your credit score.
  • You won’t be able to make big purchases, like purchasing a home or car.
  • You won’t be able to afford health insurance.
  • You won’t be able to provide for your family.
  • You’ll waste the educational credentials that you spent so much time and energy getting.

I’ve actually found the opposite to be true for me. I’ve strived to be strategic, disciplined, and consistent throughout the 4 years that I’ve been a Leadership and Business Coach, and in full transparency:

✔ My credit score has remained consistently above 800.

✔ We have two homes and are looking to purchase our 3rd property by early next year. My over $40k in student loans is completely paid off.

✔ I’ve been able to afford health insurance or healthcare since I started my business.

✔ I work 20 – 25 hours a week, and had my revenues hit double my husband’s income this year. My two small children stay home with me even as I work with a nanny we’ve hired to watch them.

✔ I have two degrees, including one from an Ivy League University along with certifications in group facilitation and Life Coaching. I totally don’t think any of it was a waste of time, though I also believe we all have different educational paths and we all have value no matter what that educational path looked like. For me, the network and mastery I’ve gained through the schools I attended have added value to those I serve and has allowed me to serve many colleagues I’ve met while obtaining those degrees!

✔ And above all, though entrepreneurship has its challenges, I really and truly love what I do every day, I love my clients, and I’m truly blessed!

If you’re willing to be strategic, disciplined, and consistent, the sky is the limit for you personally, professionally, and entrepreneurially.

And I’m on a mission to share the wealth of knowledge I’ve gained with other entrepreneurs looking to thrive in 2019.

If you could use some help thriving (and not just surviving) as an entrepreneur, drop a comment down below or click on this link so we can set up a time to chat: https://calendly.com/daphnevalcin/discoverycall.

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Live your life, so that every day, you have a testimony to tell

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One of my good friends often says jokingly, “Daph, I’m about to throw in the towel.” He’s trying to say that he might as well give up when the stress of life gets to be a little too much. And I often tell him, “Nope. Pick it back up!” He laughs at me, but I know that he appreciates me saying it every time I do! We have to keep moving forward steadily towards all of the potential that life has to offer!
Many of us have so much potential and power inside of us, and it simply takes for us to believe in that daily to push forward towards our goals, to embrace hope and potential within each day, and to pursue opportunities, friendships, and relationships that would allow us to be inspired, empowered, and fulfilled.

So go for it! Don’t you try to throw in the towel. Instead, live your life so that every day, you have a testimony to tell! Have a success mentality even in the midst of the storm. Live today like it’s part of your story of overcoming and winning even amidst the challenges that come your way! Live today like it’s part of the legacy that you might pass on to your mentees, the people around you, or your future family! You deserve to embrace all that life has to offer today and every day!

I believe in you!

VIDEO: Tips to determine if your next job or entrepreneurial opportunity is right for you – Why I turned down a million-dollar opportunity

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Here is the recording from the Facebook Live that I did a few weeks ago that has almost 1,000 views thus far on Facebook: “Why I Turned Down a Million Dollar Opportunity: A Few Tips to Determine Whether the Next Job or Entrepreneurial Opportunity is Right For You.” 

For those of you who prefer to read a bit of the content-rich detail of what I spoke about, here’s the basic outline of what I covered in this video:

I started out by speaking about the journey of a gentleman who happens to be a senior in age who I spoke to after a goal-setting workshop that I facilitated for him and a few other individuals. After the workshop, he shared with me the significance of him making the right decisions about what to prioritize as his life focus. He felt as if this was extremely critical with these possibly being the last years of his life. His story made me think about why we don’t all have the perspective of living our best lives now, especially since, whether we would like to admit it or not, none of us are guaranteed many years of life from this point forward (though I hope we all have an abundance of years moving forward!).

I then went on to give a few major tips on how to determine if your next job or entrepreneurial opportunity is right for you. Here are a few things I covered that we should all think about when it comes to our next opportunities:

1) What do you want from this season in your life?
More time with family?
More balance?
More of a focus on building wealth?/ Paying off debt?
More time?
Action: Write it down – What do you want and why in every area of your life? Does your dream or opportunity currently fit into these desires? 

2) What might others feel like they need from you in this season?
What might your spouse or family desire from you?
What is your child or husband’s love language, and are you able to fulfill that love language while pursuing a specific opportunity?
Do you have a sick parent or family member that you need to take care of while pursuing your next opportunity?
Is there debt that needs to be paid off in your family that you need to address as soon as possible?
Action: Talk to your loved ones before making huge decisions. Have your dream team on board to support you through your dream.

3) Is what you want entrepreneurship or a job?
Are you okay with uncertainty or do you need guaranteed profit?
Are you okay with experiencing failure on occasion that might impact your income or do you need definite additional income?
Action: If you desire to take risks with your next job or entrepreneurial opportunity, take risks at the best possible time. Maybe that means that you take the risk now while you have a full-time job, are single, or have guaranteed retirement. Maybe that time is in the future. If the time is now to take a risk, what will you do to start working towards making that dream happen?

4) Think about if an opportunity will truly make you happy doing the task that you’ll be doing, and if that happiness in doing your work truly matters to you (maybe profitability matters more to you when you explore your heart deeply).
Does happiness matter more than the profit you’ll be making in your next opportunity?
Did you find that you have a degree but are not choosing to do the thing that will bring you wealth? Maybe it’s because happiness in what you’re doing might matter more to you than profit.
If you’re currently in school, do you find that you’re not pursuing a major or degree of study that might not bring you wealth?
Answer the question: Might your happiness be more important than your wealth?
Action: Write down the experiences you’ve had that have truly made you happy. 

5) Think about if you’re honestly satisfied with the status quo (you just might be).
Is outside pressure or popularity forcing you to feel like you need to be wealthy?
Action: Pray, meditate, and determine what you want and why? What do you like about how things are going now? Do you honestly want to change?

After evaluating the above, you should have a number of strategies and tools to feel more confident that your next entrepreneurial or job opportunity is right for you!

If you thought this was helpful, definitely comment below, or as always, feel free to share this post with family and friends who might benefit from this as well!

She Paid Off $20,000 Of Debt In 5 Months

Do you know how it feels to pay off $20k of debt in 5 months? It feels absolutely amazing, and that is exactly what happened to one of my business coaching clients as a result of our coaching relationship. This client was just re-launching her business after our first coaching session. The other day, she texted me stating that she had paid down $20,000 of debt in just 5 months as a result of the work that we’re doing together. I was ecstatic!

So, I know what you’re thinking. What exactly does this have to do with me? Well, let me tell you that no matter if you’re coaching with me or not, that if you put in work towards your vision, if you’re super strategic about your approach, and if you persevere even when it’s not easy, that you might just experience the results you’ve been dreaming of, whether personally or professionally. For some people, those results come very quickly, and for others, it takes time, but research shows that perseverance and grit are the most common attributes of those who are successful. 

My client, who’s now on track for working towards paying off her house (that she recently bought), not only is always hungry for knowledge, but she has a huge focus on mastering her craft when it comes to the service that she provides. Both personally and professionally, she definitely has the perseverance and grit that research cites as being critical for success, and even when things aren’t going perfectly in life or business, she is honest with herself about what’s wrong and pushes forward towards a resolution to do better or be better. And you know what? You don’t have to be exactly like my client, but your character, values, and approach to hard work will be super important on your life’s journey. 

Practice daily the values that you know will get you to where you want to go in every area of your life, and prayerfully, you will see the fruit that produces over time!

I’m rooting for you!

As always, feel free to send me a quick note at daphne@daphnevalcin.com or comment below to let me know if anything I wrote here resonated with you, and of course, feel free to forward to family and friends that might benefit from this post as well.

What one accomplishment would make your 2017 amazing?

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I can remember walking with an open laptop on my college campus as an undergrad, getting some last minute studying done right before an exam. A gentleman, who I believe was a professor, walked by me and told me, “If you don’t know it by now, you just won’t know it.” He then kept walking past me. He must have seen the intensity in my eyes and knew my test was right around the corner. But you know what? I kept studying, and I’m pretty sure I did well on that exam. I’m an awesome test taker, but I’m often the person who has my study book and notes out until the teacher or proctor says to put it away.  It’s because of my core belief that every moment counts–a belief I still apply to life and business. And when it comes to your 2017, there’s still time to end this year with a bang. 

One of my clients inspired this post. She has health, financial, and other goals that she’s determined to meet before the end of 2017, and she’s on track to achieve themInstead of already delivering your final conclusions on 2017 already, why not do something you can really be proud of before December 31 comes. 

I want you to do me a big favor. Please think of at least 1 goal that is realistic for you to accomplish over the next few weeks that would make you feel absolutely amazing about closing out 2017. Whether it’s about your physical health, self-care, finances, relationship, friendship, professional development, or something else, I want you to zoom in on that 1 goal. Then, I want you to think about the top 3 things you must do in order to make that goal happen. Then, create a timeline for implementation, schedule any associated action steps in your calendar, and make it happen!

If you really want to make your 2017 amazing, you definitely can, so hop to it 🙂 Be encouraged, and continue to be equipped for the greatness that is coming your way.

And remember, I believe in you!

If this post was helpful in any way, as always, definitely comment below or email me at daphne@daphnevalcin.com to let me know, and feel free to forward to family or friends who might benefit.

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When The Unexpected Happens… Encouragement To Keep On Going

I want to send encouragement your way, today. Over the past few weeks, I’ve spoken to a number of clients, friends, and colleagues that have had some heartbreaking things happen, negative health surprises come up, family issues arise, and more.  Some people are truly going through tough times, and if not you, maybe you know of your colleague or friend who might be experiencing some frustrating times. If this is you or someone you know, I wanted to send love, support, and encouragement your way.

During college, I was a mentor to many students. I was part of maybe 30 to 40 organizations total while I was there, and to continue mentoring, I started a massive Facebook group with my mentees soon after college. At one point, when I couldn’t sustain posting frequently to the group, I let my mentees know I was closing the group down. One of my mentees asked me what was the best and most powerful advice I could give as I was closing out the group. I said, “Always have your shield on. Be equipped with whatever spiritual strength, peace, strategies, heart, or whatever you need to battle against the problems that you don’t know will come in the future.”  I knew even then, in my early 20’s, that life would have some big challenges. Now at 33, I see that advice was so right to give. That mentee years later had a near-fatal scooter accident and lost most of his memory. He now has regained his memory, works in law as corporate counsel for a huge company, is married, and is doing well. I had my share of heartbreaks, frustrations, and challenging seasons too over the years, and I can remember crying profusely one day years ago. I was so confused as to where God wanted me after my employer had been fired and everyone was fired in my office except for me, who had 6 months to find another position. In the past, I thought I would be working at that job for years. Within the next one and a half years afterward, I had met the man who would be my husband, moved to another state, enrolled in life coaching certification, and started Daphne Valcin Coaching. God had a plan.

For some on this list, you may be dealing with other intense issues–I have had friends who had friends or family pass away this past week. One of my friends texted me this past week and said, “I just found out today that the company I work for is shutting down tomorrow.” Another friend didn’t get a job he really, really wanted and had been trying to look for another job for years now. These are all examples of truly difficult challenges, and while I made calls, had conversations, and sent encouragement to each of these friends, the common theme that each understood was, “This season too shall pass.” My friends each processed their challenges in a way where they thought through, “What is God showing me through this?” “What’s next?” “How can I find peace in the midst of this situation?” 

I am not a licensed therapist, but I can tell you in my life experience that I think it’s healthy for you to think of some of those questions my friends asked themselves above as you experience challenges. Do take time to process what you’re experiencing and take time to grieve a situation, person, job, or anything else that might have you feeling loss or sadness. Then, determine, “What is God showing me through this? What’s next? How can I find peace in the midst of this situation,” and remember what I wrote about when it comes to having your shield. “How can I be equipped with whatever spiritual strength, peace, strategies, heart, or whatever I need to battle against the problems that I don’t know will come in the future, especially if I know challenges in certain areas of my life impact me greatly.”

Some very practical things you can do now to be prepared for whatever challenges come your way and to have peace in the midst of challenges to come:

1) Fill your mind and spirit with content that brings you peace 

Whether it’s audio, T.V. shows, books, conferences or seminars that focus on spiritual strength, peace, personal development, coping skills, or perseverance, immerse yourself in content regularly that feeds your mind and spirit, even if you do this quarterly within the year. This way, you shift your internal dialogue and are equipped to bounce back and be a strong support to others.

2) Pray/meditate daily

An article that I read cited that five research-based results of prayer are increased trust; self-control improvement; increased kindness; increased forgiveness; and decreased effects of stress. Take time to connect with your internal thoughts, a higher power, positive possibilities, and gratefulness daily.

3) Process your thoughts or deep feelings that might be keeping you down

Whether you choose to seek therapy, or find that journaling your thoughts helps you to process them, or become part of a support circle associated with a challenge or common interests, do seek a platform or multiple platforms where you can process your thoughts, be encouraged, and feel equipped to move forward.

I felt this post was just what some of you needed me to write this week, and so I truly hope it’s helpful as you continue to walk through your respective journeys. Be encouraged, and continue to be equipped for the greatness that is coming your way.

And remember, I believe in you!

If this post was helpful in any way, as always, definitely comment below or email me at daphne@daphnevalcin.com to let me know, and feel free to share with family or friends who might benefit.

 

 

 

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Can you really handle success? Three tips to manage the success that’s coming your way.

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First of all, I’m going to tell you the answer is YES. You definitely can handle success. So many people are afraid to do so much, because they’re afraid of what might be on the other side, even if it’s success. Some of us are afraid to graduate from high school or from college. We’re afraid to date the right man or woman.  We’re afraid to get married. We’re afraid to start a job in a higher role than we’ve been in. We’re afraid to make too much money. We’re afraid to move to where we know would be great for us.  We’re afraid to save money. We’re afraid to buy a home. And the list goes on and on. But, can I tell you something. It’s okay to be afraid, but it’s important that you know that you can handle the success that’s on the other side of taking action towards walking in your purpose.

These past few weeks, I have had the blessing of speaking with business coaching clients who are almost overwhelmed with how many increased leads, sales, and profits they are making. We’re working on how they can manage that better. I’ve had the joy of supporting leadership coaching clients who now have friendships galore blossoming from their ability to more walk in their confidence and coaching clients who are also balancing blossoming romantic relationships along with their other endeavors as a result of their taking a chance on love. I actually closed the most sales I have ever closed in the history of my business last month. Great things are happening all around, but I definitely realized something in helping others manage their success and having to manage my own success.

I realized that being able to handle success means being as prepared as possible for it before it comes. 

Though this means different things to different people based on what your idea of success is, there are a few things that are pretty consistent across the board that you can do to do your part to be ready for the awesomeness that might be getting ready to come your way. 

 

1) Time Management

Are you managing your personal time or business time in a way that makes room for when success comes your way? Whether success to you means a relationship, or exercising regularly, or having increased prospects in your business, does your current schedule allow for space for future endeavors that are meaningful to you to be prioritized? If not, adjust your schedule, utilize time management tools, release what’s not an effective use of your time, and integrate more of what helps you move towards being successful.

 

2) Personal and Professional Development

When you get the increase in pay or the new house or the new relationship or the increased clientele, will you know what to do? Will you know how to manage your success? When I was in high school, I was speaking to bankers about understanding investing. When I was in college, I requested information about franchises I might start (though I may have had $5 in my savings account). In college, I printed out a large number of pages about credit management before I had a credit card. I was trying to get prepared for what my future vision might hold. If you’re trying to start a family or have an amazing family, you should be taking steps to grow as a parent, wife, or husband, for example. Lay the foundation right now for what you know can be your reality. Why wait?

 

3) Perspective

Are you a pessimist? In my opinion, that’s not going to help very much in your personal, professional, or entrepreneurial life. And there’s a difference between being a realist or a pessimist. To prepare for success, once you’re in it, you have to learn how to keep success going. That means you have to have vision, hope, and I would say, even faith, to keep pushing you forward. If you got to medical school and decided once you got there that you weren’t medical school material, can you imagine how that might negatively impact your ability to study through the night? If you got married and, all of a sudden, decided that this marriage was just not going to work no matter what you did, can you imagine how that might impact your marriage journey. So again, vision, hope, and faith, I believe, might be essential on the way to success and once you reach the success you’ve been hoping for. 

So do yourself a big favor. Since we already agree you’re going to be able to handle any success that comes your way, do your part to continue to prepare to receive it. You got this!

And remember, I believe in you!

If this post was helpful in any way, as always, definitely comment below or email me at daphne@daphnevalcin.com to let me know, and feel free to forward to family or friends who might benefit.

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Video: Sometimes you just have to keep pushing

Every one of us has challenges that we work through on a daily basis, and in my experience, hearing that we’re not alone in the challenges we face on our personal, professional, or entrepreneurial journeys can truly be a blessing.

So I want you to hear it from me. You’re not alone. So many people are experiencing challenges, though in the midst of those challenges, there are also many people dynamically pushing through each and every one of them. And you certainly can too. I want you to know that when you want your vision bad enough, you have to keep pushing. Especially if that vision has something to do with your peace or joy, in the end, it’s totally worth the work you have to put in regularly to ensure you attain that vision.

Check out this video that’s less than 20 minutes long that features a bit of my testimony of being resilient in the face of challenges on the way to becoming a successful entrepreneur. It was actually a Facebook Live that has over 500 views, so I hope you find it as helpful as those who have already watched it.

In the video, I also give practical advice and encouragement when it comes to ensuring that you continue to keep pushing despite the challenges you might face now or in the future.

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Video: Be Courageous!

There might be something you might want to do this week, or maybe this month, but fear or hesitation is holding you back.

Or maybe you’re moving forward with an endeavor like a project or networking or your tasks at work, but doing so with hesitation or a lack of confidence.

If you resonate with any of the above, then this video is for you. In less than a minute, I do a quick breakdown of how being courageous versus being confident can be super impactful for you personally, professionally, or entrepreneurially.

I pray you find this video helpful as you work to pursue your dreams and take action in your everyday life, career, or business.

Enjoy! And do me a favor and like and share this video if it resonates with you!

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